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Path of Service and Mastery: Spiritual Dominance and Submission by Raven Kaldera www.asibdsm.com

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Copyright  Raven Kaldera, shared with exclusive permission.

In this day and age, and especially in this country that I live in, there is a great deal of ambivalent and conflicted feeling about one human being serving another in a formal and negotiated submissive role. Most of us claim to hate the idea of having our right to do whatever we want trampled upon. We may complain about or even rebel against authority, perhaps even reflexively, simply because it’s there. Most service jobs, from housemaid to waiter to social worker, are low-paid and socially devalued. Especially when it comes to personal service jobs, such as the aforementioned waiter or housemaid, we tend to assume that no one could actually enjoy such a job, and everyone in such jobs are merely biding their time until they can get “better” jobs. Those would be the ones where you are on the ordering side of the lunch counter, rather than being on the side where they cook the fries. Actually doing the order-taking is seen as degrading by definition. We encourage this attitude in every new generation, and then we wonder why they are surly to us from behind the counter, forget our ketchup, steal from our houses as they clean the floors, laugh at the idea of community service, and eventually grow up to hire desperate illegal immigrants to do the work that they found so belittling.

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Written by Miss Maya Midnight, shared with exclusive permission.*

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A Complete Newbie's Guide to Seeing Pro-Dommes

I love popping session-cherry, but first-timers are notoriously flakey, disrespectful and annoying to deal with in the pre-session stage. I know most of these problems are due to ignorance and nervousness rather than plain douchebaggery, so I wrote this guide to help you out. In the time I’ve had it on my site, many clients have told me that they found it very helpful. Hopefully you will too. 

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When we first began speaking in public about our commitment toward M/s as part of our spiritual path, and began to work out what that looked like and how to communicate it to others, our experiences were intensely personal. How this worked for us colored many of our assumptions about how it worked in general, if only because there were so few accessible models. However, as we met and talked with other couples (and triples) who were finding their own ways along the path, we noticed that the structures holding the spiritual energy in its place in the M/s relationships often differed from ours. There were many things in common, but some overarching patterns were very different indeed.

After a while, we began to notice that the various spiritual M/s relationships tended to fall into two basic patterns. Raven chose to call them “the yin-yang” and “the tree” as metaphors for how the energy moved in each relationship. (If the word “energy” is too woo-woo for you here, replace it with “effort” or “time and attention”.) Neither is good, bad, or better than the other. Each M/s couple will gravitate into what is most comfortable for them. It’s possible to do either of them wrong, but it’s also possible that if you’re strongly ensconced in one, looking in on the other from the outside can cause you to imagine “They’re doing it wrong!” when in actuality they are merely doing a different path right. (more…)

Mistress Karin is the Mistress and owner of Dungeons Down Under in Oklahoma, and the head of her poly family and household.  Though she stays busy, she was kind enough to grant me time out of her hectic schedule to share some advice for those within the lifestyle and some of her experiences over the years; first as a submissive and now a Dominant and Mistress.

Dungeons Down Under Interview

Photography by Riley, Editing by Baxely Fine

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Though many of us are proud of our BDSM lifestyles, some of our readers may not want their family or friends to see their activity on our Facebook page or BDSM Facebook pages. To not have your likes or comments show up on their newsfeeds or on your own timeline, simply follow these steps for how to adjust your Facebook privacy settings.

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Step 1: Visit your Facebook profile page and hover over the “More” tab. In the drop-down menu, click on “Likes”

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Dungeons: Five Tips for First Timers (Photo of Iron Bell Academy)

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One of the most alluring parts of BDSM is the dungeon, the sacred spot where you can explore new ideas, play with your favorite toys, and connect with other kinky people just like you.  It can be an overwhelming and nerve wracking experience, especially if it’s your first time.  Because there isn’t a universal instruction manual to help you get prepared, here are the top five things to remember if you venture out. (more…)

Originally Posted on the The Kinsey Institute™

According to a recent Psychology Today editorial, there’s no such thing as a fetish. Their reasoning? In an era of search terms and niche pornography, researchers find that most adult-website users demonstrate consistent, specific sexual preferences. Naturally, understandings of “normal human sexuality” are always in flux. But what exactly is a fetish, and how can it affect someone’s sexual experiences?

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