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Michael Makai- Author of “Domination & Submission: The BDSM Relationship Handbook”

The Jian Ghomeshi scandal has become unavoidable.  It is literally everywhere on the internet, television and, of course, on the radio. If you’ve been living under a rock, here’s a timeline by Global News of accusations and evidence against the former radio show host. Since he was let go by CBC, the scandal has started a much needed social discussion on BDSM and what consent actually is. Not only that, but it has also prompted the question “Why don’t victims speak up?” or the idea of the “Jian Ghomeshi Effect” that Camilla Gibb talks about in her recent Salon article.

So let’s explore the definition of consent shall we. If I were to explain consent to a child, I would say it simply means saying “yes” or giving permission. However, for adults consent usually isn’t that black and white. There are grey areas where we could argue that consent was implied or previously agreed upon. (more…)

 

Long Term Bondage

by Mumman Mark, reposted with exclusive permission

For years I have sought to endure a stringent, completely immobilizing, full-coverage sensory-deprived mummification for 12 hours, as I have alluded to in a previous article when I was able to go for 11 hours. Encouraged by that session, I got similarly attired for the armchair mummification, determined to make it through. Sitting in this position in the chair has been the most comfortable mummified position I’ve been able to endure for the longest periods, being seated upon some foam-rubber padding. I drank lots of water to keep hydrated, as I was going to be hot and sweaty in my thick padded diaper, tight stretchy top and bottom shaper undergarments, panty hose, heavy (3 mm) Neoprene wetsuit, latex gloves, multiple tube-sock-sheathed hands and feet, padded tight leather deprivation hood and tall padded leather posture-collar. I didn’t cut myself any slack with the tightness of lacing up the over-zipped hood, with my hard foam-rubber gagpad in and the mandatory earplugs inserted. The same with tightly buckling up the tall posture-collar and the 3 belts at my abdomen around the back of the chair. My mouth was firmly clamped shut in the hood and only nose-breathing was possible, through the small restricting nostril grommets.

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Path of Service and Mastery: Spiritual Dominance and Submission by Raven Kaldera www.asibdsm.com

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Copyright  Raven Kaldera, shared with exclusive permission.

In this day and age, and especially in this country that I live in, there is a great deal of ambivalent and conflicted feeling about one human being serving another in a formal and negotiated submissive role. Most of us claim to hate the idea of having our right to do whatever we want trampled upon. We may complain about or even rebel against authority, perhaps even reflexively, simply because it’s there. Most service jobs, from housemaid to waiter to social worker, are low-paid and socially devalued. Especially when it comes to personal service jobs, such as the aforementioned waiter or housemaid, we tend to assume that no one could actually enjoy such a job, and everyone in such jobs are merely biding their time until they can get “better” jobs. Those would be the ones where you are on the ordering side of the lunch counter, rather than being on the side where they cook the fries. Actually doing the order-taking is seen as degrading by definition. We encourage this attitude in every new generation, and then we wonder why they are surly to us from behind the counter, forget our ketchup, steal from our houses as they clean the floors, laugh at the idea of community service, and eventually grow up to hire desperate illegal immigrants to do the work that they found so belittling.

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Written by Miss Maya Midnight, shared with exclusive permission.*

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A Complete Newbie's Guide to Seeing Pro-Dommes

I love popping session-cherry, but first-timers are notoriously flakey, disrespectful and annoying to deal with in the pre-session stage. I know most of these problems are due to ignorance and nervousness rather than plain douchebaggery, so I wrote this guide to help you out. In the time I’ve had it on my site, many clients have told me that they found it very helpful. Hopefully you will too. 

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