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Mistress Karin is the Mistress and owner of Dungeons Down Under in Oklahoma, and the head of her poly family and household.  Though she stays busy, she was kind enough to grant me time out of her hectic schedule to share some advice for those within the lifestyle and some of her experiences over the years; first as a submissive and now a Dominant and Mistress.

Dungeons Down Under Interview

Photography by Riley, Editing by Baxely Fine

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Though many of us are proud of our BDSM lifestyles, some of our readers may not want their family or friends to see their activity on our Facebook page or BDSM Facebook pages. To not have your likes or comments show up on their newsfeeds or on your own timeline, simply follow these steps for how to adjust your Facebook privacy settings.

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Step 1: Visit your Facebook profile page and hover over the “More” tab. In the drop-down menu, click on “Likes”

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Dungeons: Five Tips for First Timers (Photo of Iron Bell Academy)

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One of the most alluring parts of BDSM is the dungeon, the sacred spot where you can explore new ideas, play with your favorite toys, and connect with other kinky people just like you.  It can be an overwhelming and nerve wracking experience, especially if it’s your first time.  Because there isn’t a universal instruction manual to help you get prepared, here are the top five things to remember if you venture out. (more…)

Originally Posted on the The Kinsey Institute™

According to a recent Psychology Today editorial, there’s no such thing as a fetish. Their reasoning? In an era of search terms and niche pornography, researchers find that most adult-website users demonstrate consistent, specific sexual preferences. Naturally, understandings of “normal human sexuality” are always in flux. But what exactly is a fetish, and how can it affect someone’s sexual experiences?

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I approached Taurus Rainbow Lingerie after coming across their Facebook page and drooling over their lovely products. I love that they focus on empowering plus size women and helping us feel sexy! I think that the more confidence you exude, the sexier you feel and the more your partner will be attracted to you!

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By maymay

My friend over at Kink In Exile, has recently posted a fantastic list of 8 things dominant women want. The list is so spot-on that I think it is a must-read regardless of whether you are in or are looking for a kinky relationship or not—or even if you’re not even “into all this kink stuff.”

I’ve been struggling to write more in this space lately. I want to, but between having to deal with the stress of moving to New York City from Sydney in less than two weeks and, more recently, the stress of losing my relationship with (Sara) Eileen, most kinds of words seem beyond me right now. Naturally, reading over a list of the things dominant women want during this time triggers a certain amount of introspection.

Kink in Exile’s list is so good, actually, if it were not unspeakably lazy of me I would want to copy it in its entirety for a post of my own. Instead of plagiarism, however, here’s a companion list of the things that submissive men want from a dominant partner that I think might be helpful. Astute readers of both my post and hers will note how similar these two lists actually are in content if not in voice. That, of course, is no coincidence.

For the sake of clarity, I’ll preface this list with an explicit remark about how it’s not intended to reflect anything other than a generic exploration into what I believe submissive men want from dominant partners, and should therefore not be interpreted without salting to your own taste, so to speak. I’d also like to acknowledge the excellent pre-publication input I received on this post by Kink in Exile herself, ironrose, as well as a few more friends. Thank you all for your thoughts.

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