BDSM Basics: 20 Unsolicited Tips for New Dominants

Tips for New Dominants 1. You will fuck up New Dominants WILL make mistakes. It’s a fact of life. To be fair, experienced Dominants will make mistakes. Intermediate Dominants will make mistakes. If you are a Dominant or think you want to be a Dominant, you will make a mistake. Accept it and move on. The only thing that makes a mistake worse is not learning from them. Use them as opportunities...

BDSM Basics: Bondage Knots

By LadyJ If you want to explore bondage, you need to have some knowledge of bondage knots. You can accomplish safe and effective bondage just a few knots. In a future post, I will show you more advanced, prettier knots for more “showy” bondage, but first things first. ROPE Choose your rope according to what you are tying. For typing limbs, body harnesses, rope bras, etc, I use 3/8 rope, but...

Pleasing your Dominant

I'm beginning to think it is impossible to completely please someone. What an awful thought because as a submissive, that is my job. We are not expected to please anyone other than our Dominant and at first glance, that appears to be simple, right? Making one person happy should be a piece of cake. No problem. Uh huh. Right. Allow me to be vulnerable enough to admit that I find it extremely...

Satiating the Beast

The following conversation was created to help submissives who have concerns/fears about being able to satisfy the desires of a dominant who enjoys pushing limits and has extensive experience with such. This article is intended to aide in calming those fears. I had them myself and thought I would share my experience with all of you in a creative setting. Cerina cerina : has a Dom that scares me...

The Healthy Submissive

"Discipline gives total freedom; it allows you to go beyond your limitations, to break through boundaries and reach the highest goal. The path to discipline will not only save a person's life, it will also give it meaning. How? By introducing him to deeper joys and deeper longings, by creating a silence in which the whisper of the heart can be heard. Truly, discipline is the road to liberation."...

101 Ideas to Make Your Slave Feel Owned

One of the main factors, for me in feeling truly Owned is to be constantly reminded throughout the day of Master’s control. These reminders can be subtle or really obtrusive. The more often a slave is reminded of their submission, the deeper it becomes….and the more fulfilling. So here are some ideas you might want to try. And no matter what rules you decide to make on your own, please be...

Kinbaku Bondage Knowledge

What is Kinbaku? Kinbaku, like Shibari is a sexualised extension of Hojojutsu. Techniques once used for restraining prisoners have been subtly altered to address the line where pain becomes pleasure… where the intent for torture becomes a consensual element of BDSM. The meaning of ‘Kinbaku’: In Japan, Kinbaku is less commonly known as sokubaku, bakujojutsu, and senyojo jutsu, and it...

Submission from Strength

That curious and thought provoking response to your strong approach to submission in your message box inspired the following thoughts: I am not sure if, before meeting cerina, that strength of will would have instinctively been high on my specification of the 'ideal submissive'. Not because I find the juxtaposition of strength and submission in anyway incongruous but because I never realised that...

8 Things Submissive Men Want From A Dominant Partner

My friend over at Kink In Exile, has recently posted a fantastic list of 8 things dominant women want. The list is so spot-on that I think it is a must-read regardless of whether you are in or are looking for a kinky relationship or not—or even if you’re not even “into all this kink stuff.” I’ve been struggling to write more in this space lately. I want to, but between having to deal...