No Shades of Grey
A brief guide to what BDSM really is.
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No Shades of Grey by Ayzad condenses “in just 15 pages the fundamental information about a phenomenon so big it cannot be ignored. You can read it online or download it already formatted for every kind of e-reader. This time it is available in English too, and if you like exploring unusual sexualities I promise you’ll enjoy it.”
Thank you to Ayzad for offering this mini-ebook to our readers!
The summer of 2012 will be long remembered as a small sexual revolution. Thanks to an unprecedented global marketing feat, E.L. James novel Fifty shades of Grey and its two sequels drove over 100 million of readers worldwide to discover and appreciate the so called ‘BDSM’, or erotic domination games. Of course it wasn’t the first time this topic came into fashion: in the recent past the successes of books and movies such as The story of O, 9 ½ weeks and The Secretary confirmed how much interest these practices raised. The real difference was in the size of this success. What until then had been a mysterious connoisseurs’ passion suddenly became a mainstream phenomenon. With all the related problems.
Indeed, the Shades trilogy is just a romance inspired by–among all possible sources–Twilight’s vampires. Its goal is to let the female readers dream an updated and pornographic version of Prince Charming’s tale, not to scrutinize the complexities of a real relationship, nor to describe how BDSM is actually lived in the real world. Unfortunately not all readers understood this. Just as in the story about the kid who ties a sheet around his neck and jumps from the window believing he can fly after watching a Superman movie, many readers (and several journalists) were convinced that extreme eroticism actually was what Anastasia and Christian Grey do, and threw themselves into emulating them without really knowing what they were doing.
The world press is reporting the results: a sudden increase of embarrassing or lethal accidents –which however are just the tip of the iceberg. In my counseling alone, in example, I am meeting more and more people whose careless approach to these practices has resulted in psychological, social or even physical damages they could have easily avoided with a little preparation. The fault of course does not lie in the novels or in BDSM itself, that remains a wonderful form of erotic play safely experienced by hundreds of millions of men and women every day. The real risk is in the dramatization of sexual domination as portrayed by most media, which highlight the spectacular and exciting sides of it without presenting any hints of its underlying complexities. BDSM is really an “extreme” activity, and like all extreme activities, it must be confronted responsibly.
Given my 25 years of experience in these things, I then thought it would be useful to write a short guide to explain what BDSM really is. It is an effort to help others to avoid trouble while also enabling them to get the most pleasure and fun from a phenomenon that has lots to offer-if you just approach it sensibly. Enjoy it!”
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