The term subspace is often used in D/s conversation, for describing the ‘high’ a submissive can feel during a scene. Simply put, the experience of intense pain, and/or pleasure can trigger a nervous system-wide response with a release of chemicals including endorphins, enkephalins, and epinephrine from different areas of your brain. These are the body’s natural pain killers, in reality, our body’s very survival instincts kicking in.
Question:
“i’ve been a sub for a little over a year. my last Dom didn’t listen to the safety word or even when i said stop and didn’t give any aftercare. being a sub has opened a passionate side of me i thought would never appear but i’m afraid to get another bad Dom. if you have any suggestions, they would be greatly appreciated.”
First off I want to say that I’m sorry you had to go through that. It is unfortunate that some people think that being a Dom means they abuse their submissives. I know it will probably take a lot of trust on your part to be able to take the “gamble” and enter into another D/s relationship, so take your time to heal and learn what you want to get out of your next relationships first. We have several articles on our website that deal with abuse and BDSM, so please feel free to go through these results and I hope they will help you out. Also, we have a sister page, The Safe Submissive, that posts more about safety issues and abuse within the community and several groups on different social sites if you need any support.
After diving head first (as most of us do) into the world of BDSM we generally start to feel comfortable enough to purchase a few “toys”, then a few more, and a few more, and just a couple more.. until we have a collection that needs its own hiding space in the back of the closet. Sure, these toys are plenty of fun, but do you know how to properly take care of them? Continue reading
This is my personal story about how discovering and learning about BDSM helped my husband and me come to an important understanding within our marriage, as well as guided me to a place in my life where I am now comfortable with my body and who I am as a person. This is the journey from a vanilla marriage that was quickly falling apart to a 24/7 D/s lifestyle that has helped us become closer than ever. Continue reading
“Geek Kink is a Dom/Sub operation out of Sacramento, CA. Krissy and Allen love to challenge each other in the bedroom and in the Alchemy Lab where the Geek Kink creations are born. Krissy is a third generation geek. The D&D Monster manual was her bedtime stories and the sound of Captain Picard yelling at Q was her lullaby. Allen is a Wizards of the Coast certified GM and has been perfecting his zombie survival plan for over a decade. These two want to help people make their kink experience fit them. And so, in a galaxy far, far away Geek Kink was born. Geek Kink’s goal is to make toys no man has made before.”
About the smaller paddle in the review: “The small paddles are ones that we tend to take to play events (along with our other products of course).” They are not for sale on their website, but I’m sure if you contacted them they would be happy to make one for you!
Addressing my concerns with the HK paddle: “The handle on the Hello Kitty is just it’s design. Though, we do not use a laser cutter. This is a small operation right now it is all done manually. We have someone that cuts all the wood, sands it and so on. The painting is 100% us. Some items, like the Darth Vader and Horde paddle are stenciled but again that is all done by hand.That is part of why a lot of the items are made to order. Some people have special requests, such as items specifically set measured to fit their hand size. As you had mentioned the size was wrong for his hand. But the Hello kitty, and most of our paddles come as a 7 layer pressed laminant.
We love custom orders and are always willing to work to make them fit specific sizes.”
http://www.geekkinklabs.com or http://www.shop.geekkinklabs.com
Hello Kitty Paddle: http://shop.geekkinklabs.com/Hello-Kitty-inspired-BDSM-Paddle-Mature-12.htm
Geek Kink Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GeekKink
A few of ASI’s other favorite Geek Kink items:
ASI’s Facebook: http://www.facebok.com/ASI.BDSM
Check out our youtube channel for more kinky product reviews!
We’re giving a 6 month Support FetLife subscription through this week’s Share Saturday contest!
Check out the pinned post on our Facebook page for how to enter!
http://www.facebook.com/asi.bdsm
Erin Houdini hand dyes beautiful rope, but her UV nylon rope is super cool!
Erin’s website: http://www.erinhoudini.com/
Erin Houdini Rope Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ErinHoudiniRope
Erin Houdini Fetlife: https://fetlife.com/users/54356
A Submissive’s Initiative website: http://www.asibdsm.com
ASI’s Facebook: http://www.facebok.com/ASI.BDSM
*It has some to our attention that due to the loose spun of the nylon this rope may fray or get fuzzy after heavy use. Will be doing another short comparison review after some “testing”*
By Rose Petal
So, you’re in a BDSM relationship? You have kids? You have a job? You have other responsibilities besides the ones to your Daddy/Dom, or Mommy/Mistress? You have a life, right! As much as we want to, we don’t always have enough time in the day to please everyone, and if you are remotely human, you probably please yourself last at the end of the day, if you get the chance at all. So how do we make the special time we do have with our partner count, when all too often, it is but a fleeting hour of pleasure once or twice a week? Continue reading
