10Apr

BDSM Basics: Daily Rules, Tasks and Assignments

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: BDSM Basics Beginner BDSM Information Dominance Submission

I feel like daily tasks and assignments are an under-appreciated aspect of BDSM relationships. For many bottoms keeping a checklist or completing daily assignments is a great way to make sure we are staying on track and meeting our Tops’ standards, giving us a boost of confidence and allowing us to hone our submissive skills. […]

4Feb

BDSM Basics: BDSM & Hypnosis 101

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: BDSM Basics

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Introduction Recently, hypnosis as a form of play is becoming more popular in the Dutch BDSM-scene. Although it’s still concentrated in small circles, in other countries it is a much more well known kink. But there are a lot of misconceptions going around about hypnosis. Some people just don’t see the link to BDSM, others […]

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31Jan

BDSM Basics: What is a Collar and What Does it Mean?

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: BDSM Basics

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A collar is well-known symbol within the BDSM community, but it seems that more and more often I’m seeing newcomers use the collar as simply another fetish accessory. They are unaware of the intense symbolism behind the collar, what it means, why it’s worn and why it shouldn’t be used as a prop. For me, […]

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10Dec

BDSM and How to Bring it to Life in your Vanilla Marriage

Posted by: DeShanna Categories: ASI News BDSM Basics Beginner BDSM Information General BDSM Information

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BDSM and D/s relationships have been in existence for as long as there have been relationships! In fact, back in the 1950s it wasn’t uncommon to see ads depicting husbands spanking their wives over their laps. Of course over time, images and even the prospect of these acts happening in the home were deemed sexist […]

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10Nov

BDSM Basics: Three Steps to The Care and Keeping of a Frequently Spanked Bottom

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: BDSM Basics Beginner BDSM Information Daddy Dom/Littles Guest Posts

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Written by Alex Reynolds I don’t know if you guys have noticed this or not, but I get spanked a lot. I almost always get a spanking at bedtime, and more often than not, I find myself getting some sort of impromptu spanking in addition to that. The other day, one of my friends asked […]

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3Nov

BDSM Basics: Impact Play Safe Zones and Spanking Tips

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: BDSM Basics General BDSM Information

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Green = Safe Zones Yellow = risk zones Use caution when directly hitting these area or how frequently you hit these areas. Red = Danger areas Avoid direct hits to these areas. Purple circles = Critical Areas In no event shall these areas receive direct blows or sustain any direct or prolonged pressure. These […]

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9Oct

BDSM Basics: Male Dominant Acid Test (A Guide for New Submissives)

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: Abuse BDSM Basics Beginner BDSM Information General BDSM Information

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The term ‘Acid Test’ is an old prospecting term. A powerful acid can dissolve most base metals in a matter of minutes. Gold however, will stand up to most acids. The ‘Acid Test’ was an easy way for people to make sure they had a real nugget of gold and not a lump of the […]

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4Oct

Dicas para novos Dominantes

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: BDSM Basics

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1. Você vai fazer merda. Novos dominantes VÃO cometer erros. É um fato da vida. Para ser justa, Dominantes experientes vão cometer erros. Dominantes Intermediários vão cometer erros. Se você é um Dominante ou pensa em ser um Dominante, você vai cometer erros. Aceite e siga em frente. A única coisa que torna um erro […]

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2Oct

How to Care: Doing it the Submissive Way

Posted by: DeShanna Categories: BDSM Basics Beginner BDSM Information General BDSM Information

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When anyone think of submitting to another, the first thought to the vanilla mind is ‘doormat’. One who can not speak up for themselves. This obviously isn’t true, at least in most D/s relationships. There are those small few that lose touch of course, but overall, the communication and trust within these unions are paramount. […]

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1Oct

BDSM Basics: Bondage Knots

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: BDSM Basics Beginner BDSM Information General BDSM Information Guest Posts Rope Bondage

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By LadyJ If you want to explore bondage, you need to have some knowledge of bondage knots. You can accomplish safe and effective bondage just a few knots. In a future post, I will show you more advanced, prettier knots for more “showy” bondage, but first things first.

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